Best friend dating ex wife
That being said, if you find yourself drawn much more strongly toward the ex, then it’s worth thinking about. Let’s be honest, she’s probably not going to be thrilled about it, however it happens.
If one of your biggest goals in life is to find someone to marry, I certainly wouldn’t dismiss something like that without some serious consideration. But the longer you wait before you take the initiative and bring it to her, the worse it’s going to be. There probably are some lines that can’t (or shouldn’t) be crossed.
The most important thing, as is true in most cases, is to be proactive, communicate clearly, and be thoughtful and considerate, especially when there are strong emotions involved. As a wise man once said, “So, you’re sayin’ there’s a chance?
So, I got a text message today from my best friends telling me that he is in love with my ex wife. I was not abusive, didn't drink, do drugs, hit her, etc.
Haven't cried or gotten really angry, but at the same time this feels like a betrayal. I just deleted him from my contacts and left him with silence. But I think there should be a level or respect between people who are supposed to be best friends and he didn't really live up to that, he doesn't seem to be being a good friend. I wouldnt actively pursue him as a friend, but I guess I wouldn't shut down completely. He was pissed and hasn't spoken to me since but I have many more friends than soul mates on this planet.
I guess I am wondering what any one else thinks about the situation. We've known each other since middle school We divorced beause of the constant arguments about money us never spending time together Work took up alot of our time away from each other He doesn't seem like a great friend. But I think there should be a level or respect between people who are supposed to be best friends and he didn't really live up to that, he doesn't seem to be being a good friend. He is in a tough position - choose his best friend or the woman that he loves. I just feel that a good friend would have at least discussed it with me IN PERSON BEFORE he started to date her. That's not something you tell someone over a text...shameful. But not saying anything back is the way I'd go too right now. If he was a better boyfriend then perhaps they would be still together but he wasn't.
We don't live in the same town and I haven't seen her in a year or him since October.
All the people out there in the world and they chose to go after their friends ex's... I just feel that a good friend would have at least discussed it with me IN PERSON BEFORE he started to date her. That's not something you tell someone over a text...shameful. Your former friend should have been more of a decent human being about this. And with the girl, I just saw her not knowing how to reach me. Its up to you if you want to maintain a friendship with him. Not to be insensitive, but she isn't your territory. Not saying be active friends, but I would stay amicable, if yoi ever interact. You don't own another human just because you fucked her first.
Take it from a guy who has been in this tight spot a time or two—there are three things you must do before moving forward with your friend’s ex. Anyone who has had any sort of meaningful romantic relationship can tell you that—over it or not—it would be difficult for them to be around their ex.
Perhaps you’re thinking to yourself, “We’re all adults here. So even if your friend is “OK” with you dating her ex, you are likely going to see a lot less of your friend.
The key to making a prudent decision here is to keep an emotional distance until you have made a conscious decision to move forward with your friend’s ex. We all want to be happy, and most of us are looking for someone with whom to live happily ever after.
If you go about it the right way, many of these complicated relationships can, at the very least, be given a shot.
We all know the difference between a fling and something more. Why not just tell her that you’re going to date her ex? I imagine that most women like to have the same sense of consent.